Book Review: One and Only: The Freedom of Having an Only Child, and the Joy of Being One By Lauren Sandler

This book comes as a boon to parents of “onlies”- men and women who have one kid and are keeping it that way due to medical, financial or environmental reasons or any other reasons personal to them. I am the mother to an “only” girl and both of us are very happy. Did I hear tsk tsking from you? Please don’t ,because this book from Sandler will change what and how you think about parents with one child and they themselves being an only child. 

The book is filled with statistics, examples and personal experiences of Sandler who is an only child and did not turn out badly. As Sandler discusses in her book, single children are wrongly stereotyped as spoilt, maladjusted and lonely. 

First children tend to be a choice parents make to fulfill their own lives and a second child tends to be a choice parents make to fulfill the life of their existing child.”

Sandler’s book is very engaging not just because of scientific research but also because she questions the clichés surrounding parents of onlies like “selfish” or “too career minded” and the list goes on.

This is a must read for those who have one child or plan to stop at one but are often pressurised and confused by the media, marketing campaigns, friends and relatives who often ask “only one?” or “are you planning another?” or worse “what about a sibling for the first?”

There is wit and intelligence in the book and has been worth every penny I paid for it!

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